Change Is a Healthy and a Necessary Process
Change happens to everyone. Most people don’t like it. It puts them out of sorts. They feel uncomfortable with change. But change is a natural process. You should expect it. And you should learn how to welcome change.
When some of our kids were younger, any time my wife and I moved any furniture around the house, it would bother them terribly. They would want us to put it back the way it was. And it would take a while for them to accept the change.
What about you? What do you think about change? Does it bother you? Or are you able to welcome change in your life?
It is important for you to welcome change into your life. Change is good. You were made to change. You are expected to be transformed. As you grow in your faith, your life should reflect more and more of the glory of God (2 Corinthians 3:18).
Don’t believe the lie that you are incapable of change. And don’t let fear of change prevent you from becoming the person who God created you to be. You are capable of change. You can become the person you want to be. And you can change to have stronger and deeper relationships in your life. You can change.
If change bothers you—or if you don’t think you can change—then do these three things.
1. Welcome change in yourself.
Do not be afraid to change. Your ability to change is tied to your faith in God. What do you believe God can do? If you doubt your ability to change, you are actually doubting God’s ability to change you.
You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you (Philippians 4:13). If God is in it, you can do it.
What do you feel God wants you to do? Be willing to step out in faith. If God is calling you to do something, then He will be there with you as you do it.
In the fall of 2015 I felt that God was calling me to write Dear Boss: What Your Employees Wish You Knew. I had never written a book before. I didn’t know how to start. But every time I was willing to take a step forward, God was there to help me take that step. Every time I sat down to write, God showed up. I just had to show up and take that step.
God wants you to become more of who you are. But that requires that you become more like Him. And that involves knowing how He thinks. And that necessitates reading His word.
Do not compromise who you can become because of fear acting in your life. You can overcome fear—if you are willing to keep taking steps forward in faith. Your ability to change depends on whether you listen more to God or to fear.
You can change. You can become who were meant to be. But you must be willing to welcome change into your life.
2. Welcome change in others.
You are not a static person. You are a dynamic person. And so is everyone around you. Do not limit your ability to change. And do not limit anyone else’s ability to change either.
If you think someone else “always” does this or that, make sure that you allow room for them to change. Do not assume that they will “always” be like that. Do not pigeonhole people. They have the same capacity for change that you do. Be willing to allow others the opportunity to change. And recognize that change in them.
God is the God of second chances. Repentance is all about change. God wants you to be constantly repenting of the fear that pulls you away from Him, so that you can become more of who you are. You should allow others to do the same. Believe that they can overcome fear in their lives and become more of who they were created to be.
If someone else is able to overcome the fear in their life, rejoice with them. Do not be resentful if they are able to overcome fear and you are not. Learn from what they have done. And do the same in your life.
3. Welcome change in your relationships.
Just like you can change and others can change, your relationships with others will change too.
Over the years, my wife has become a very wise woman. She has become more like God just by spending time with Him consistently, day after day, month after month, year after year. And that has changed our relationship. I rejoice in the change I see in her. I do not resent the changes in her. And that has allowed our relationship to grow. We have allowed each other to change.
Relationships will change whether you allow them to or not. Be willing to let them grow and change in a positive direction instead of a negative direction. Be the kind of person that will help others become more of who they are. Welcome change in yourself, so that you can be a catalyst for change in others.
Change is good. Do not fear change. God is author of change. He made the seasons to change, children to grow up, and people to be translated into eternal life. How you experience change will come down to how you view change—and whether or not you are willing to welcome change in yourself, in others, and in your relationships.